There are plenty of other examples in the linked posts, that’s why they are there. The example of surname traditions was used simply because it’s so insidious and unexamined, compared to other things which are much more obvious – e.g. that most managers and above in most industries/professions are men, and that men are continually offered higher rates of pay for doing the same work.

I’m also curious as to why you believe that the “girls night out” example had anything to do with work and thus with practices liable to get a company sued? Y’know, it’s almost as if you didn’t even read the title of the post that was being quoted, let alone the full post itself.

I came here to try and work out what the whole patriarchy concept was. I am still none the wiser, except I am now harbouring doubts that it really exists.

Instead, what seems to exist is a will by women to be women but to deny the same right to men. For example, you want your women only social outings, which I’m fine with by the way, but from experience I know guys only nights at work could get my company sued.

You’re going to have to do a lot better than that to convince most people this privilege exists.

I don’t get why men have to say every time a woman complains about something very important like this subject over here, that it happens to them too or why no one discusses their problems too. I agree with what Sweet Honesty said above and I’d like to add that everyone talks about how bad is for men, no one gives attention to women.

When a woman wants to discuss some real issues she is labeled as crazy, a stupid emotional WOMAN and whatever she says it’s a stupidity, including any claim towards violence from men. Because, you know, men being gods couldn’t possibly do anything wrong, it’s just crazy talk from those inferior beings called women. It’s pretty much the same attitude a master has to its slaves.

PS: I did remember a woman making fun of me when I told her about my story about my uncle trying and almost succeeding in raping me: she looked at me with a face that said she was on the break of laughing her ass off and she asked me if I haven’t confused things with a movie. I was shocked. Firstly because it was very hard for me at that time to open up about that and still is and because she was supposed to be a friend
So that shows that cruel and insensitive people come from both genders.

AS IF it’s some major challenge to be funny without disparaging someone of an underprivileged social class.

A truly good joke is something that everyone finds amusing, but I guess that’s just too tall of an order for the bigot clan.

Men certainly DO get to choose what they are attracted to… in fact, it’s all we ever hear about. When I turn on my TV (which is rare, these days), I am bombarded with countless images of scantily-clad women with augmented breasts. I cannot recall the last time I saw a woman with natural breasts in a mainstream movie. But, aside from that, I’m just flat-out sick of looking at T&A, period.

Every day, I am forced to endure the Male Gaze, in various forms of media & advertising. What I want to see, as a heterosexual female, is largely ignored. Now THAT is insulting.

David’s response just makes me laugh and shake my head. The whole world caters to his wants & needs, and yet he has the unmitigated gall to play victim. Unbelievable.

Further food for thought: Women have been pressured & bullied for eons to accept the “average guy”. We are told to always look on the inside. If a woman even dares to comment on a physically attractive man (while in the presence of other, less-attractive men), she will be berated and shamed to no end. I know what I’m talking about, as I have been in this situation more times than I care to count.

I’m not so much opposed to female objectification, but rather the fact that there is no equivalent form of male objectification in mainstream media. If both genders were being sexualized, then it would all make sense.

You’ve got yours…. where is ours?

It’s soooo tedious.

I find it hilarious that deception & manipulation qualify as some sort of “artform”. ROFL!

Bottom line: If you need cheap parlor tricks to score sex, you were never desirable to begin with. Why fake it? Any half-way intelligent person can spot a phony a mile away.

I think it’s rather cocky (not to mention rude) to come into somebody’s space and tell them how they should phrase their articles. If the author chooses to use a food-related analogy to describe rape, that is her prerogative. As many men so often say….. “if you don’t like it, don’t read it”.

Bottom line: Go get your own blog. They are free, ya know. It isn’t FF101’s duty to tell your story; that’s up to you.

I think that often the “bragging” some people see in the PUA community boards is actually a product of learning. Though some posters abuse it, the idea of such “field reports” is to be instructive to new PUAs honing their craft. PU is not something that was invented overnight by some guy in his basement. It is a collection of stories and experiences that are presented and then tested to see if they are useful to everyone or just another story.

Not to knock the boards (cause they helped me a great deal in the beginning), but many of them are more or less an anecdotal male Cosmo Magazine. They give men a place to start, things to consider and solutions to what they might be doing wrong. However, the journey of a true PUA is one of learning, experience and self-discovery.